What is Conscious Dying?
Looking to the end of the journey
We anticipate so many things in life - careers, marriage, building families, participating in communities and enjoying leisure time. And yet this habit of imagining the future rarely extends to how we want this journey to be at the end. Do you want to die without regrets? With a sense of having made a difference? With the satisfaction of having loved deeply? Planning for the end of life frees you to live even more purposefully now. Gifts From the End helps people to reflect on and surface their own ideas about death and then use that knowledge to prioritize action in life.
The method
Susan uses the Best Three Months model established by Tarron Estes, founder of the Conscious Dying Institute, which engages you to imagine the last three months of your life from five distinct perspectives.
Working together, these perspectives help you identify and envision an end of life that is unique to you, rich in meaning, and built on the most important experiences and relationships in your life. With Susan’s support, you can now address the actions you want to take to live into this vision.
When she was 19 years old, Susan experienced deep grief for the first time when a friend died suddenly in a plane crash. This event motivated her to explore philosophical questions around pain, suffering and death. Conversations with college professors, clergy and other trusted guides over several decades set her on an intellectual journey.
Susan’s intellectual journey became an experiential journey as she cared for her parents through their physical demise and deaths and supported friends through the loss of loved ones. Since 2010, she has been a member of the Voices of Love, a Threshold choir which sings for people on the threshold of life and death. Taken together, all of these encounters revealed two things: a desire to be present with others as they confront mortality AND a deeper awareness of the greatest joys of her life.
After a fulfilling, thirty-five-year career as a professional fundraiser in a variety of non-profit organizations, Susan trained with the Conscious Dying Collective to be a personal coach, specifically to accompany others in their own contemplation of these deep questions. Her particular interest is in working with individuals to discern the most meaningful actions they want to take to deepen joy in their lives, using contemplation of their own death as a precise tool to focus the exploration. Her training includes working with clients of all or no faith traditions.
Susan is a lifelong choral singer, participating in school, church and community choirs. In addition to singing, Susan’s greatest joys include being with her husband and family, digging in the garden, entertaining friends, practicing yoga, traveling, and reading great fiction.
“Susan is understanding and compassionate and her work is important. Her one-on-one coaching is a powerful way to consider the way you would like to approach death—and to awaken to the opportunities available.”
- Individual Coaching Client, 79